Maybe He Never Liked You

 

Ace Metaphor once told Cam Newton:

“There are a lot of heterosexual men who don’t really like women for real.”

Unfortunately, that’s true.
And sadly, when many women hear that, their first thought is, “Oh, he must be gay.”
(But that’s a conversation for another day.)

The reality?
There are men in relationships right now with women they don’t even like.
Not emotionally. Not mentally. Sometimes, not even physically.

He may have liked her in the chase, but once he gained access—once he really saw her—his interest evaporated.

But because many men lack emotional intelligence, they don’t say anything.
They stay.
Not with love. Not with presence.
But with silence—and loud disrespect.

And by the time she notices the shift?
Time has passed.
Children are here.
She has his last name.
The sacrifices? Almost all hers.

She spends years inconvenienced, dismissed, disrespected—chosen last.
Until one day, she has to face a truth he’s always known:

He doesn’t like you.
Not because something changed.
But because nothing ever did.

We, as women, love to say we have a sixth sense.
We feel when something’s off.
But too often, we keep choosing based on who we hope they are—
not who they’ve already shown themselves to be.

We try to fix them.
We try to deserve better from them.
But at what cost?

You know what you’ve allowed.
What you’ve endured.
What you gave, just to be able to say: “I have a man in my life.”

But survival isn’t love.
Loyalty to a wound isn’t strength.
And you don’t have to live through being unloved just to prove you’re worthy of love.

Sometimes the most freeing truth is this:
Maybe he just doesn’t like me.
And in that truth, you may finally realize…

You were never meant to like him either.

We have to stop acting like we deserve to be chosen just because of who we tell ourselves we are.
You’re not a hero if you’re not saving yourself.
And it’s okay not to need to be liked.