House holds the assignments

I’m not saying this because I’m married.

I’m saying it because — what’s the point of marriage if you don’t want to actually be married?

I’ll never understand couples who treat acts of love like chores.
It’s telling. And honestly… why?

Why commit if basic thoughtfulness feels like too much?

There’s this tired question people keep asking women: “Would you fix your man’s plate?”
First of all — it’s a dumb question.
Second of all — it’s still a dumb question.

I used to fall into the trap, too. I'd proudly say how much I loved doing it.
But then I realized — no one needs to hear that but him.
It doesn’t matter who knows what I do at home.

The truth is, if you have a real partner — someone who shows up for you — things like fixing a plate aren’t expectations.
They’re expressions. Small moments of appreciation. That’s it.

No bragging needed. No approval required.

We love each other.
I have a partner who is truly mine.

And when that’s real…

Consideration isn't a chore

Author’s Note:
I want to be able to love out loud—shamelessly, fully, and without fear of ridicule or regret.
This post isn’t a judgment on those who don’t, won’t, or can’t.
It’s a reflection from someone who is seen and appreciated—and is learning to be a better steward of that truth.
For myself.
For my peace.
And for the continued growth of this space.